tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16768178.post115420034243034210..comments2023-10-16T07:40:38.179-05:00Comments on Hear me Roar: An Education for MeUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16768178.post-1155107056195337592006-08-09T02:04:00.000-05:002006-08-09T02:04:00.000-05:00Thought you might be interested in this new resear...Thought you might be interested in <A HREF="http://society.guardian.co.uk/socialcare/story/0,,1839764,00.html" REL="nofollow">this new research</A> out today.<BR/><BR/>SpicyAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16768178.post-1154406687223229802006-07-31T23:31:00.000-05:002006-07-31T23:31:00.000-05:00Thank you to both of you! I will try and blog more...Thank you to both of you! I will try and blog more about what I learned at the conference.<BR/><BR/>Thanks for the support Sarah. Glad to know I'd have your vote :):) Can you imagine if I ran for public office and this site was tied to me? YIKES!!Tobeshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04766767971739035215noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16768178.post-1154397278166752342006-07-31T20:54:00.000-05:002006-07-31T20:54:00.000-05:00Tobes, you amaze me every day, every time I read t...Tobes, you amaze me every day, every time I read this. I love reading your blog because you are so intelligent and honest and you never back down from anyone. I wish you were president.Sarah @ All The Book Blog Names Are Takenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12507006809241347635noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16768178.post-1154241207167181602006-07-30T01:33:00.000-05:002006-07-30T01:33:00.000-05:00Delurking… great post!I mean, people will call the...Delurking… great post!<BR/><BR/><I>I mean, people will call the police department if their neighbor's dog is barking too loudly, but how many people pick up a phone if they suspect their neighbor is beating their spouse?</I> <BR/><BR/>Here in London (UK) the police receive a domestic violence call every five minutes. We did an analysis of the source of the calls and guess how many came from neighbours? 4 freakin’ percent. In a survey of women in refuges (shelters) 89% said their neighbour knew.<BR/><BR/>And here too the standard question about domestic violence is 'why doesn’t she just leave?' to which my stock response is 'Why do you care what she does? Her behaviour is not the problem.'<BR/><BR/><I>do we ever stop and think, "Does this makes sense that SHE should have to leave her home? Why doesn't he leave?"</I> <BR/><BR/>We have done some thinking on that here in the UK and have created another option called Sanctuary. <BR/><BR/>It's not an option for all abused women but for those that choose it (and the emphasis *is* on it being her choice) the Government will now pay for additional security to your home (average cost is £2,000 per property - c. $3,700) including both external security and making one internal room (usually the main bedroom) secure so that there’s another place to run to should the abuser still manage to break in. This room is completely fire-proofed and an alarm straight to the police station is also installed in there. <BR/><BR/>In the better schemes, this extra security is provided along with a specialist support worker who will help the woman develop safety measures for the totality of her life so as to avoid her home becoming the only place she feels secure.<BR/><BR/><I>Anger is unhelpful.</I><BR/> <BR/>It's true that hostility in a training scenario is rarely helpful but I do know from my own experience of over two decades of delivering training on violence against women that directing my anger into passionate advocacy for abused women *is* something which gets attention. <BR/><BR/>Even when the delegates don’t agree with my analysis / solutions, I still get respect for my obvious passion and commitment which means we can at least have a dialogue. And since I come from the position that neutrality on violence against women is collusion (and a delusion created by professionals which rarely convinces either survivor or offender!), taking such a stance myself would be somewhat hypocritical!<BR/><BR/>I'd love to hear more about the conference by the way...<BR/><BR/>SpicyAnonymousnoreply@blogger.com