tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16768178.post116610718495493121..comments2023-10-16T07:40:38.179-05:00Comments on Hear me Roar: Duke LacrosseUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger12125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16768178.post-1168996263163707022007-01-16T19:11:00.000-06:002007-01-16T19:11:00.000-06:00Oh, and assuming guilt is a horrible thing to do. ...Oh, and assuming guilt is a horrible thing to do. I nearly wish someone "assumes" you are guilty of some crime you did not commit in the future.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16768178.post-1166897838811094172006-12-23T12:17:00.000-06:002006-12-23T12:17:00.000-06:00Anon 4:47 -So what you're saying is, since men are...Anon 4:47 -<BR/>So what you're saying is, since men are the only ones who can solve the problem, we shouldn't do anything to alienate them? If a group of people have the ability to end rape - not least by simply not doing it - and they choose not to, I don't think worrying about whether or not we alienate them is really the issue, here.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16768178.post-1166336461770395092006-12-17T00:21:00.000-06:002006-12-17T00:21:00.000-06:00I'm not very familiar with this case and I'm wonde...I'm not very familiar with this case and I'm wondering: was their DNA evidence left on her, or no? Is it possible that there was someone else at the party who was NOT a lacrosse player but said that they were? I've been to a lot of hockey team parties, and I am never altogether sure who is actually on the team and who isn't... I'm happy if the evidence exonerates any of the men on the team, but I don't think that this new evidence proves that a crime didn't occur. I think that people need to check their motivations here... a woman was raped. We should ALL be wanting to hunt this rapist down-- and not just for her sake, but for everyone's. NONE of us should be hoping that the case is dismissed or put on the backburner just because the team is no longer involved-- there is still a rapist out there. Catch him. Catch him fast. And then throw away the key.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16768178.post-1166316422331452022006-12-16T18:47:00.000-06:002006-12-16T18:47:00.000-06:00That person who called you the name was not me. Bu...That person who called you the name was not me. But I can see why you get us anonymous types confused. I really should get an account so I can have a name. <BR/><BR/>As for what my interests are, you are so wrong. So very wrong. It is just so obvious that your -in your face- -my way or the highway- -I can say it but you can't- style is the wrong way to go about things. You just alienate men, the <B>only</B> ones who can fix the problem.<BR/><BR/>I have followed your blog for a while and notice that when it gets a little hot in comments you drop another post on the front page. <BR/>Nice.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16768178.post-1166314478914326722006-12-16T18:14:00.000-06:002006-12-16T18:14:00.000-06:00You know, when viewed in that light it IS hypocrit...You know, when viewed in that light it IS hypocritical. I am a non-violence advocate and clearly posted on one of my angrier days. <BR/><BR/>While I'm an advocate of non-violence, I'm also aware that because of years of oppression and shitty treatment, women (like me) have certain fantasies which are justified. I don't want to blow anyone up. Or kill anyone. I don't think we should castrate anyone but there are moments where the overwhelming urge to "get even" steps in. It's not a healthy urge, but I'm human. I have bad days. It WAS hypocritical. <BR/><BR/>It's wrong to hurt people and to laugh at people getting hurt. The idea of an exploding condom ("you can use me as a sex object, fine, I'll blow yours off") just was ... surprising to say the least. But I think the reason I originally smiled was because in my mind I was imagining all the sick and vile men in the world who use and abuse women. It'd be nice if they were in fear sometimes. Women live with fear every day that someone could violate them sexually and physically. It's wrong, but when we see a woman trying to take the power back, it's hard not to smile just a bit.<BR/><BR/>But I'm a hypocrite because I believe in non-violence and working with men and acknowledging that men are not the "enemy."<BR/><BR/>You however, believe in nothing as far as I can tell. Except coming on here and trying to discredit a site that has a lot to say about -- reproductive rights, sexual assault, gay rights, domestic violence, war movement etc.<BR/><BR/>You have no interest in seeing men and women gain equal ground, making the world a safer space for women, talking about healthy relationships etc. You are gleeful about trying to make women look dumb (thanks, I don't need a definition of empathy).<BR/><BR/>That and your use of the word "cunt" pretty much solidify in my mind that I don't need to take you too seriously. <BR/><BR/>Find another hobby, you're not rattling anyone's cage around here.Tobeshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04766767971739035215noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16768178.post-1166294085568471312006-12-16T12:34:00.000-06:002006-12-16T12:34:00.000-06:00I assume you don't see the blatant hypocrisy. I us...I assume you don't see the blatant hypocrisy. <BR/><BR/>I used your words from your "Sorry, but this made me smile" post on Nov 30th as you defended yourself. They are <B><I>your</I></B> words with only the "men" changed to women. <BR/><BR/>==========<BR/>Tobes said...<BR/><BR/> Yes. She did a criminal thing but it's funny in my mind because I've certainly had fantasies of getting back at men... of course, this story wouldn't be funny if she had actually hurt someone. Since people are okay you can kind of smile at it. <BR/>===============<BR/><BR/><BR/>The difference is the Duke players email you quoted was talk and obviously a joke. (It was not played out or acted upon) whereas the explosive that made you smile was something that actually happened and could have easily caused life threatening injuries if not murder. <BR/><BR/>My point is that you seem to want your cake and eat it too. It is fine for you to express amusement at an <B><I>actual</I></B> incident where a woman sent explosives to a man through the mail. Yet amusement at a twisted email which was obviously a joke and was never in any way acted out, deserves a trip to the mental ward according to you. <BR/><BR/>The lack of empathy with the male perspective of your posts are indicative of psychopathic behavior.<BR/><BR/>Link to back this up: http://www.psy.mq.edu.au/staff/dmcilwain/empathy.html<BR/><BR/>Or it could be that you are so wrapped up in yourself that you just don't care if your words offend. <BR/><BR/>Whatever the case your hypocrisy provides me with endless amusement...please continue.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16768178.post-1166281621713231652006-12-16T09:07:00.000-06:002006-12-16T09:07:00.000-06:00No, I'm not smiling because you are gross and disg...No, I'm not smiling because you are gross and disgusting. Not because you have a point.<BR/><BR/>Getting "off" sexually to torturing a woman is not the same as making take a phallic-like symbol, like a condom and making it explode.<BR/><BR/>I still do not condone the woman's actions because she terrorized people she was sending it to.<BR/><BR/>It's becoming quite evident to me that you are some form of twisten sick person. I would like to suggest you seek help.Tobeshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04766767971739035215noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16768178.post-1166278507989892632006-12-16T08:15:00.000-06:002006-12-16T08:15:00.000-06:00Sorry, but this made me smileI’ve decided to have ...Sorry, but this made me smile<BR/><BR/><I>I’ve decided to have some strippers over… all are welcome. However there will be no nudity. I plan on killing the bitches as soon as they walk in and proceeding to cut their skin off while cumming in my duke issue spandex. </I><BR/><BR/>Well they apparently didn't do anything criminal, but it's funny in my mind because I've certainly had fantasies of getting back at women... of course, this story wouldn't be funny if they had actually hurt someone. Since people are okay you can kind of smile at it.<BR/><BR/>Right back at ya Tobes, you still smiling?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16768178.post-1166240306899939952006-12-15T21:38:00.000-06:002006-12-15T21:38:00.000-06:00You're welcome and thanks! And you should be able...You're welcome and thanks! And you should be able to leave an anonymous comment, at least...Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16768178.post-1166234376473376822006-12-15T19:59:00.000-06:002006-12-15T19:59:00.000-06:00Thank you so much for visiting and for the kind su...Thank you so much for visiting and for the kind support. It's nice having people like you visit! I checked out your site as well-- AWESOME! I need to get a google account so I can comment...Tobeshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04766767971739035215noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16768178.post-1166228959701127802006-12-15T18:29:00.000-06:002006-12-15T18:29:00.000-06:00Hey Tobes - just came across your blog. I think t...Hey Tobes - just came across your blog. I think this is a really interesting case. I, too, assumed guilt for the same reasons, and I think it is eminently reasonable to have done so.<BR/><BR/>When a woman says she's been raped, I always believe her. As you said, the stats of women who lie about it (2%, I believe it is, according to the FBI) would lead any reasonable person to believe her. 98% of the time, they'd be right.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16768178.post-1166153839843617312006-12-14T21:37:00.000-06:002006-12-14T21:37:00.000-06:00I assume guilt because statistics prove that false...I assume guilt because statistics prove that false accusations are a tiny minority of rape accusations. Since this wasn't a situation of a stranger who needed identification, stats would indicate that this did happen. As did physical evidence.<BR/><BR/>Whereas you have nothing to back up your opinions. And thanks for the c-word shout out.Tobeshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04766767971739035215noreply@blogger.com